This blog covers the bias associated with an adult woman accused or convicted of sexual contact with a male teen.
***Adult content***
I’ll be the first to admit it. Let a bunch of adult men be in a room together watching the news, when suddenly there’s a report about a female teacher who was caught or suspected of having sex or some sort of sexual contact with one of her male students.
All you will hear is:
“Damn, why not me when I was younger?”
“How old was she?”
“Does she have a pretty face, big boobs, or a nice butt?”
“I wonder what type of sexual acts she was caught doing? All types of freaky acts come to mind.”
That’s just how men talk. As Donald Trump says, “It’s locker room talk.” But it’s wrong to think that way, and what’s even worse is that a lot of movies and music videos show teenage boys dreaming of having sex with their female teachers or older women who are pretty, have big boobs, and tight clothing. It’s perpetuated in American culture that male teens can, and should, have sex with as many teen girls and women as possible. That’s a double standard. The same men who talk about how they wish it was them having sex with a female teacher when they were teens, would lose their damn minds if their teenaged daughters were to have sex with a grown male teacher. The teen girls would be slut shamed, called
whores, and get bad reputations.
The female pedophile teacher of all times was Mary Kay Letourneau. She died close to three years ago from cancer, but boy did she have a big spotlight on her! The former elementary school teacher at Shorewood Elementary in Burien, Washington, was the daughter of John Schmitz, who ran for president in 1972 under the American Independent Party. At the age of 34, Mary Kay was charged with statutory rape involving her 13-year-old student, Vili Fualaau. She later gave birth to their daughter while serving a 7½ -year prison sentence. After her release, they got married, and had more children.
Fact is, most adult males don’t see anything wrong with a teenaged boy having sex with an older woman. They rationalize this thought process by pointing out the fact that a woman doesn’t have a penis and can’t physically hurt, sodomize, or penetrate a male. Men think that maybe the student’s feelings and heart might get hurt, or that he may develop feelings for the older woman, but men don’t judge women who have sex with teenage boys like we would a 13-year-old girl having sex with a 24-year-old man, for example.
Adult males smile, laugh, will pat a teen on the back, and are happy for him, if they find out he is having sex with an older woman or his teacher. I know this all too well, as when I was 14 years old and a freshman in high school, I was considered a man child, being 6’3”, 225 lbs., with a full beard. I was very mature for my age, which led to a few sexual relationships with female teachers, and teacher’s aids, ages 21-30. I wasn’t molested, and I knew exactly what I was doing. The football coaches all knew what I was doing, and told me to keep my business on the low. I don’t condone any adult man or woman having sex with a teen or child. My experience with older women when I was a teen isn’t anything to brag about, and it wasn’t right. I’m just blogging about the truth of how biased men are when it comes to female pedophiles!
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Leonard E. Love